After all is there anything actually negative about being single?
We have ourselves, family, close friends, pets, as well as, friends with benefits that we can call when we are in need of romantic intimacy.
So doomed is certainly an innacurate word to describe the situation.
However, the truth of the matter is that Alpha females are attracted to Alpha Males but most Alpha Males are attracted to beta females.
Two major problems here,
alpha males are about 1 out of every 100 men (and that statistic may even be too generous in today's world.)
The average man is already outnumbered by women, so the rarity of an alpha male is even more strenuous on the alpha female.
Secondly, the attraction Alpha-females feel for Alpha-males is often one sided because they seek Beta-Females.
Why is this?
The Alpha Male's drive is based upon the need to be needed, whereas the Alpha Females' are based upon the need to acquire collective "self sustainability".
Also, Alpha Females can sometimes appear too masculine to Alpha Males, which repels them from seeking long lasting partnerships with them apart from consensual sex, or business relations.
Strangley, this same distorted perception of energy is the same aspect that attracts Beta males to the Alpha Female.
What all men should keep in mind is that because masculine energy is outwardly exerted, and feminine energy is about depth. . .
A single Alpha Female must tap into survival mode, in order to protect herself thus, she may seem overbearing in her masculine energy when doing so because it is a vital part of her essence that is not glorified or accepted in conformed society. Why? Because conformed society urges us to be imbalanced in our energies. They teach that a proper woman is to be feminine all the time and a proper man is to be masculine all the time. Also, society glorifies the negative aspects of the duality of self. Masculine is hard, war driven, strict and mean. Whereas, feminine is weak, indecisive and an overall damsel in distress.
However, the proper & divine balance of the masculine and feminine within the Alpha Female is the reason she is balanced at the head and heart.
Make no mistake about it, she is a flourishing and evolving feminine vessel as well, and at her best when her complementary partner can take the weight of protection, production and provision off of her shoulders.
If you look around, most Alpha females are beginning to date other Alpha females because beta males are not sufficient and alpha males simply aren't attracted to them.
So what is an Alpha female anyway?
How does a woman know when she is one, how do you become one?
Honestly, YOU ARE BORN ONE!
Working a 9-5, having a car and a house are always a plus but it does not indicate that you are an Alpha-Female.
Three important things define an Alpha Female
leader, straightforward about her needs vs wants, balanced in masculine and feminine energies, unconditional lover, master manifester, go getter, goal oriented, divine nurturer, community nourisher etc.
Her key phrases are:
"I AM" and "I WILL"
An alpha woman is a past life and trauma healer, she taps into archaic records necessary to preserve and heal lineages. In romantic partnerships she tends to attract parasitic beta men, who both call upon her then run from her when answered.
Remember, alpha females attract betas whereas alpha males seek betas.
She consciously knows beta males do not have an adequate amount of energy in motion to protect and provide for her vision.
DO NOT confuse Alpha Females with the "I don't need a man" type of women.
They are more so the "I have a vision that I refuse to let go to waste by any means necessary" type.
She is willing to take on masculine energy of her own to put her vision into action because she knows it is vital to her well being and more importantly her community and future lineage.
She knows her strength is in vision so she truly seeks a protector and provider that will ensure it is fulfilled.
For the FULL article go to www.urbanfreedommagazine.com and purchase the "Black History in The Making" Winter Edition
Notes: Female and Woman were used interchangeably by CHOICE!
A.F= Alpha Female A.M = Alpha Male
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