Black Mothers Matter
Regardless of the state of our cup, we pour unto others.
We give love, we make sacrifices, we bring life.
My only concern today is to advise each and every soul that lays eyes upon my words to tread cautiously with their womb and/or the wombs they are connected to.
May conception bring you joy, and may you carry with love, be surrounded by love, supported by love, and deliver in love.
As a young woman, pregnancy was a life changing experience for me.
Prior to receiving a positive pregnancy test,
black love, the black family and honoring my body was a priority of mine.
I won’t say I ever thought I had it all figured out, but I've always known I was chosen to embark upon this path for a reason.
Trusting God(Self) and honoring my intuition and integrity as a young woman have always been a priority for me.
Fast forward to deterring away from my path & becoming spiritually arrogant. Somewhere in the midst of the greatest blessing of my life I found myself, but more importantly my child rejected & abandoned by the black man.
If I am aiming to truthfully be accountable, I’d specifically say
A black Man I subconsciously chose through the unhealed wounds of my inner child.
It was absolutely disheartening to me, that as wise as I am, I fell short on providing my child with a parent who would prioritize her birth and preparation despite everything.
I wanted to lie and protect my image, as well as his integrity in the situation moving forward so I never spoke up on my behalf.
It was not until word had gotten back to me that he spent his time listening to/spreading rumors and trying to discredit my integrity as a young woman, mother and spiritual being, that I realized I most use my platform to make this a lesson learned for all who it may reach .
I didn’t complain about his absence, I didn’t revoke his access to his child, I didn’t breakdown over the blemishes covering my body due to pregnancy, and I absolutely do not warrant sympathy for almost dying after delivery.
I am not placing blame on him for any of my experience because all things are purposed in my life.
As a stated before, regardless of the state of our cup, we pour unto others.
I am still patient with him, I will still nurture him, respect him, be compassionate, be caring, loving, kind and feminine because I must serve as an example of Divine femininity for my daughter .
The loving work I’ve done over the years has surrounded me with an amazing village of black women and men that value and prioritize the black mother and child and our well being .
They have taught me that where we fall short as parents, God supplements through them.
Some days, I find myself constantly exhausted with the disregard and lack of respect ....
so I am here to urge others to learn from my mistakes.
It is not my duty nor intention to diminish the character of the black man or portray him in a negative light.
I am just simply here to shed light and lighten my load.
I am being led to return to my true sense of vulnerability.
Those moments where I steered away from my path and ignored my intuition placed me in this position, so now I must hold myself accountable and level up .
It’s time to create children in love, regardless of the state of relations between parents.
It’s time to invest and be intentional with the birth of our babies before initial conception.
& Dear Black woman,
when those things aren’t the case we ought to still value life, celebrate ourselves and strive for the best.
When are not prioritized by our partners, by hospitals and by the world, we must prioritize one another and make it our business to protect the birth of our starseeds and our own well being.
On April 1, 2020 I gave birth to an amazing starseed in the comfort of my own home.
I opt to tell our story but first let me get this truth off my chest
Judge me, just do not become me.
I love you
Meet Your Writer✨
Melanin Reigns is a spiritual counselor, freelance writer and multifaceted creator.
As a performing artist with the Speak Life Tour, she takes on music, written/spoken word, and hosting as a form of mentorship and a way to give back to the community.
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