 There are two types of Pain Pointless Pain: The outcome of resistance and becoming a slave to the ego The Pain That Evolves You: The outcome of faith and surrendering to your higher self A short story about the foreshadowing reflections of Venus in retrograde: My "romantic" love life or lack thereof, is under critical evaluation. Where have I fallen short of loving myself? In what spaces, during what time periods? Finally, I've found the courage to reinstall Snapchat, where I saved countless memories of us. I worked hard over the last few months to remove them from my brain, but I now know that the key is to instead reprogram my feelings towards our experience. You were my friend I whispered . . . . To myself, . . . because there is no one else in this room besides my body and your memories. You were my friend, you made me laugh even in moments where I resisted the urge and you would lay your head between my thighs just because you felt safe there. That night when you begged me not to leave you, you must have felt my mind wandering, my soul unsatisfied and my body breaking free from bondage of this superficial love we built. We spent 80 percent of our relationship too high to realize we weren't good for each other and 90 percent of our time not being true to ourselves. I reminisce on nights where I cleaned the house, ironed your clothes, made dinner then proceeded to eat it alone in silence. I could always depend on you to bring home a box of dessert. Cashews & cranberries covered in and topped off with excuses. It was then that I realized my love for you became abusive to my own health. I'd eat those excuses as if my decision to become abstinent wasn't proof that I knew of your late night expeditions. I expressed the revelations of my dreams to you time after time to help you come clean about something we both felt. We were falling apart. Today I am still uncertain if it was due to lack of chemistry or your lack of discipline. You were in search for the attention your mother too often deprived you of. I should've known you would run because your father never stayed. I knew the game but still opted to play because this would soon become the pain that evolved me. Fatherless, a concept I tried to refrain from accepting. What does a man do? How could I be certain? I've never relied on a man for his protection or provision but I yearn for those very qualities in the partner I wish to spend my life with. Someone should have taught us about complementary balance. That the person for you fills in those spaces, like holding hands. . . . The first time you held my hand was in the woods, the same day you opted to leave, but couldn't follow through. I wondered, how could someone keenly tell me I wasn't who they needed, then turn back around and beg me to stay. I now wonder how much self value and love I lacked to allow you to treat me as a if I was disposable. There was a part of me that never asked you for anything, yet the other half needed to know she was worth protecting, loving and investing in. It became no doubt that truth would hit the fan and I'd be tested on the advice I give out so freely to others "love yourself". I have started to reprogram my mind to reminisce on the great times where the illusion of our love filled me with so much joy. I now know that our experience was the pre show to the unconditional love that has been gifted to me. I spend time reflecting in gratitude and no longer cowering in pain. You were a checkpoint for my ego and un applied knowledge. Here I stand today, with a clear vision of what type of lover I will be: Unapologetic Unconditional Nurturing Inspirational Balanced And ever-evolving I am 5 months into the best relationship I've ever had with myself and I find new ways to love my true self every day. A piece of advice for Venus Retrograde: Reflect on the facts in love, agree to do better and work towards it with patience and compassion. Self love is your foundation for attracting the love you deserve to evolve in and with. Writer: @MrsMelaninReigns Photographer: @theebonybabe @photosbydejah Copyright © 2017 Melanin Reigns Essentials LLC. All rights reserved.
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 Rosa Parks wasn't the first to stand her ground and she certainly wasn't the last. However, 21st Century black women are taking this protest far beyond a bus. . . . To a lifestyle & infinite experience Black Women Worldwide are standing in their power and refusing to be silenced,as the divine feminine energy resurfaces in our atmosphere. There is no longer a tolerance for imitation without the rightful respect and recognition of who we are. Indoubtedly, we are the mothers of humanity and civilization but most importantly, we hold the most sacred pathway between the physical and spiritual realms. White boys and girls drank from the breasts of our mothers whilst we went hungry, in search of nurturing and nourishment. Our childhoods were stripped away from us, in order to attend to the heavy burdens of impoverishment. BUT... make no mistake about it, this isn't just another story of pity! It's a story of empowerment. It's the story of how truly divine the black woman must be, in order to make it through the tests of time. Isn't it God who makes a way out of no way? Isn't it God who reigns mercy upon an ungrateful and undeserving people time after time? Is the black woman not God within herself? If you have misunderstood, or second guessed any of the information above, this blog post isn't for you. Black Woman, Who are you? You are soul, you are SOURCE Refrain from belittling your intuition and purpose, in order to conform to who society told you, you should be. You ARE Ma'at, ying and yang, masculine and feminine, positive and negative energy! Ultimately, you are the greatest reflection of androgyny in the flesh. From here on out, you are being urged to take QUALITY care of yourself and your sisters. Let self love and self care become so ritualistic, that anything less is cast out to the shadows for dead. Black woman, you will no longer be a host to parasitic corporations, entities, partnerships and race relations. You will no longer stand in your own way, whilst giving everyone else a clear pathway to walk all over you. The time is now to stand in your power and bring back the full essence of divine feminine energy to your homes and communities. We are the first teachers of this world, and we must hold ourselves accountable. Set the tone for how you will be treated & don't you dare let them discourage you from your purpose. You are a multidimensional manifester, so return back to your roots, treat your mind, body and soul with respect and be the light you wish to ignite in others. There is no more space on our backs to carry the dead weight humanity . Prosperity & Wholeness @MrsMelaninReigns Model: Alona Williams MUA:Vanessa German Photographer: Vanessa German Copyright © 2017 Melanin Reigns Essentials LLC. All rights reserved.
 Absolutely NOT, After all is there anything actually negative about being single? We have ourselves, family, close friends, pets, as well as, friends with benefits that we can call when we are in need of romantic intimacy. So doomed is certainly an innacurate word to describe the situation. However, the truth of the matter is that Alpha females are attracted to Alpha Males but most Alpha Males are attracted to beta females. Two major problems here, alpha males are about 1 out of every 100 men (and that statistic may even be too generous in today's world.) The average man is already outnumbered by women, so the rarity of an alpha male is even more strenuous on the alpha female. Secondly, the attraction Alpha-females feel for Alpha-males is often one sided because they seek Beta-Females. Why is this? The Alpha Male's drive is based upon the need to be needed, whereas the Alpha Females' are based upon the need to acquire collective "self sustainability". Also, Alpha Females can sometimes appear too masculine to Alpha Males, which repels them from seeking long lasting partnerships with them apart from consensual sex, or business relations. Strangley, this same distorted perception of energy is the same aspect that attracts Beta males to the Alpha Female. What all men should keep in mind is that because masculine energy is outwardly exerted, and feminine energy is about depth. . . A single Alpha Female must tap into survival mode, in order to protect herself thus, she may seem overbearing in her masculine energy when doing so because it is a vital part of her essence that is not glorified or accepted in conformed society. Why? Because conformed society urges us to be imbalanced in our energies. They teach that a proper woman is to be feminine all the time and a proper man is to be masculine all the time. Also, society glorifies the negative aspects of the duality of self. Masculine is hard, war driven, strict and mean. Whereas, feminine is weak, indecisive and an overall damsel in distress. However, the proper & divine balance of the masculine and feminine within the Alpha Female is the reason she is balanced at the head and heart. Make no mistake about it, she is a flourishing and evolving feminine vessel as well, and at her best when her complementary partner can take the weight of protection, production and provision off of her shoulders. If you look around, most Alpha females are beginning to date other Alpha females because beta males are not sufficient and alpha males simply aren't attracted to them. So what is an Alpha female anyway? How does a woman know when she is one, how do you become one? Honestly, YOU ARE BORN ONE! Working a 9-5, having a car and a house are always a plus but it does not indicate that you are an Alpha-Female. Three important things define an Alpha Female
leader, straightforward about her needs vs wants, balanced in masculine and feminine energies, unconditional lover, master manifester, go getter, goal oriented, divine nurturer, community nourisher etc. Her key phrases are: "I AM" and "I WILL" An alpha woman is a past life and trauma healer, she taps into archaic records necessary to preserve and heal lineages. In romantic partnerships she tends to attract parasitic beta men, who both call upon her then run from her when answered. Remember, alpha females attract betas whereas alpha males seek betas. She consciously knows beta males do not have an adequate amount of energy in motion to protect and provide for her vision. DO NOT confuse Alpha Females with the "I don't need a man" type of women. They are more so the "I have a vision that I refuse to let go to waste by any means necessary" type. She is willing to take on masculine energy of her own to put her vision into action because she knows it is vital to her well being and more importantly her community and future lineage. She knows her strength is in vision so she truly seeks a protector and provider that will ensure it is fulfilled. For the FULL article go to www.urbanfreedommagazine.com and purchase the "Black History in The Making" Winter Edition Notes: Female and Woman were used interchangeably by CHOICE! A.F= Alpha Female A.M = Alpha Male Photography: @mikejon_ MUA @thenichequeen Jewelry: @Dimeofpearlcollections Model-Stylist-CreativeDesigner & Hair: @eclecticness_of_artreel #ARTreeL Third Eye Glasses: @MelaninReigns via melaninreigns.com Copyright © 2017 Melanin Reigns Essentials LLC. All rights reserved.
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